Happy New Year everyone, this greeting might be coming a little late but it's still a new year nonetheless. How are we all doing so far in 2017? Are we keeping to our resolutions and goals? Hope we haven't thrown our New Year Resolutions into the bush just yet? I know it can be quite exciting to list out the things we want to do better in the new year but I have come to realize that setting goals is the easiest thing, achieving the goals however is another ball game entirely.


One of my own resolutions/goals this year is to be more intentional about loving people. We all know that loving people is not as easy as the books or media depicts. In fact, it is one of the hardest things to do. No wonder Jesus said that the greatest commandment in the Bible is to LOVE GOD and LOVE OTHERS as ourselves(Matthew 22:36-40). In order words, if we are successful in keeping that one commandment of Loving God and Loving others as ourselves, we have invariably obeyed all the other commandments of God.


I have come to realize that the reason why it can be difficult to love others is because of our individual differences, we are all made differently and sometimes we human beings forget that. And so we expect the next person to reason like us, behave like us or even know what we are thinking or feeling per time without been told. That is how we get into conflicts and disagreements, sometimes it even leads to total separation. The solution to this is learning to love purely, unselfishly and without expecting anything in return. Giving room for mistakes, forgiving easily, and giving people multiple chances the same way God never gives up on us.


This can be quite difficult, however, the good news is that God doesn't expect us to love other people by sheer willpower. He provides the grace and strength to do that. His strength is made perfect in our weaknesses. So this year, let us be more intentional about our love walk. This I believe will open more doors than we ever expected in 2017 and it will also gladden the heart of our heavenly father.

Thanks for stopping by, stay positive...xxx

Hello beautiful people, how are you all doing? I am really excited about this month because, yes you guessed right - its my birthday month and even though the birthday has passed (it was 1st of August), I already sense that this month will be great. 
So during the months building up to my birthday, I was thinking of the things I was trusting God for in this new year and while I was day dreaming and compiling my lists for God, a question dropped in my heart - "why do you want these things" ?

Human needs are insatiable, the more we have, the more we want to have. We are constantly thinking of the things we lack while taking the focus off the things we do have, its a constant rat race. The desire to have everything consumes us so much that most times we spend more than half of our lives acquiring things that we don't need and spend so much time doing things that do not matter. 
In as much as we have needs that should be met, we should also consider our motives when we are pursuing those needs. Why do you want the things you want?
The reason why we don't get what we are asking from God sometimes is because our motives are not right. God sees the heart, He probably knows that the reason you've been active in church is because you want something from Him and the minute you get that thing, you will disappear from church. We have become so focused on getting things from God that we sometimes forget that God is our source, everything else is a resource. If God does not see enough maturity in us to handle some gifts or if our motives are not right, He will not give those gifts to us. The bible says here that "When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures" James 4;3 (NIV)

Ultimately, as Christians our lives should bring glory to God. So whatever we want or are pursuing, if it does not bring glory to God, it is not worth it. We need to constantly and daily do self- evaluation. We need to consciously check our motives because we are in a time and age where everyone wants to show they are better than the next person, our generation is so vain that if you don't know who you are and what you believe, you will begin to question even your faith.

So the next time you are asking God for something or you are grumbling that God has not answered your prayers, ask yourself these questions - "Are my motives right"? "Will it bring glory to God"?, "Is it God's will for me"? Take time to consider these things and make adjustments where necessary.

Thanks for stopping, stay positive...xxx




Hello blogfam, its been a while right, apologies for the long silence, hopefully it won't happen again.
So today, I want to blog about Time and Seasons because I have realized that we human beings are very fond of measuring everything and everyone by time or seasons. We sometimes attach greater importance to how quickly we achieve something much more than the quality of the achievement. What am I trying to say here? Let me give some common examples - We will rather finish school at a certain age with anyhow grade, studying anyhow course rather than spend time waiting on God to discover purpose and know the particular course we should study, why we should study it and if we should even bother going to the university at all. Another example is marriage - We will most times rather rush into marriage with someone we most likely know we are not compatible with but because we want to be married at a certain age, we will ignore all the signs and just go ahead so that we can be socially acceptable and escape the criticism that comes with "marrying late".
Lately, I have been thinking about this "time and Season" issue and one question that has constantly being on my mind is this - By whose standard are we measuring time? This is because if we go by God's standard (which by the way should be the only STANDARD), we will have more understanding of this time issue and we won't constantly be measuring ourselves based on how quickly we have done or achieved somethings. The Bible states here that "But do not forget this one thing, dear friends: With the Lord a day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like a day" (2 Peter 3:8). This goes to show that God does not measure time the way we human beings do and He is of course not limited by time as well. I know that we human beings are not immortal the way God is and based on that, we try to achieve as much as possible in this one life that God has given us but I am also saying that in the bid to achieve so much, let us try not to run ahead of God or disregard the things God is doing in our life per time because it does not meet up with our schedule.

Everyone of us has a schedule, we all allot time to some certain occurrences in our life - I will be done with school at this age, I will get my masters at this age, I will marry at this age, I will finish having children at this age E.T.C. However, for some of us, life has not turned out to be that way, our timing has totally been off ...I fall into this category of people. I have always considered myself a late bloomer..lol. I mean most of my milestones in life have been achieved not at the time most of my mates were achieving them but by my own schedule, later times. This has always bothered me and I always thought something was wrong with me until lately God started revealing some things to me and making me understand that God does not work with our calender, calling myself a late bloomer means I am measuring my progress by a standard other than God's which of course is a direct result of comparison. The major reason most of us feel left behind or feel we are late is because we are constantly measuring our progress and achievements based on people around us and God frowns at this behavior - "But they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise".(2 Corinthians 10:12B).
Now, I am not encouraging people to be slow or lazy or slothful, what I am simply saying is that we should learn to wait on God (Psalm 27:14) and not constantly run ahead of God because we want to beat some imaginary time or because we have to achieve something quickly because it has to be done within a certain season.

Let me finish by quoting something from a comment made by Rexie on Prettyperfectliving post on Instagram, it totally blessed me - " You are not blooming late, because even when you can't see it, God is constantly working on you. It's up to us to remain steadfast (a challenge sometimes), work diligently, faithfully and consistently (faith without works people!) and believe in the promises for us. Don't forget to celebrate the achievements of others, what God has done for them, He can and wants to do for you" (in His time). 

Thanks for stopping by, stay positive... xxx


Helloooooooooooooooooooo my people, it's been a really lonnnnnnnng time *covers face*. I really can't explain how it has taken me so long to blog, truthfully there is just no excuse but I sincerely apologize to everyone for the long silence and I promise to rectify my ways this year. Before I bore you with my stories however, let me first of all wish everyone a HAPPY NEW YEAR...wohooo. I have to confess that entering a new year brings such an incredible feeling, that feeling of hope, of faith, of freshness, new beginnings, the feeling of being alive despite all odds...I could go on and on but it sure feels great to be alive to witness a new year. I am really looking forward to the great things this year has in store for us. 
So what are your new year resolutions? (big grin), what do you plan to do differently this year? Am sure my post is really late as most people would have planned their new year resolutions by 31st December or November sef, but hey, it's fine if you are a late comer like me...lol. Its not about writing it down anyway, its about actually putting into action whatever was written down. For example, I am already doing one of my resolutions - to start blogging again...yayyyy. It is a good feeling to actually put into action what you have decided to do.
So considering that this is my first post in about seven or eight months, I will keep it short. However, the challenge and the morale of today's post is to actually START whatever you have planned to do. Darlings, the new year, the 2015 in which you were planning to do all those beautiful things has started already. Heck, we have spent 13 days just like that. Before you know it, January would have ended, so NO PROCRASTINATION this year. Our mantra on this blog for 2015 is "JUST DO IT" ..yep, its Nike baby..lol.

Don't let this year be like those other years where you repeat the same resolutions year in, year out because the one you wrote down for last year was not done so you had to write it down this year again and the cycle just keeps going on and on and on. This year has to be different for you and for me. We are going out fully to actually ACHIEVE all our goals with God on our side. We will not give up or get frustrated along the way because "We can do all things through Christ which strengthens us" (Philippians 4:13). 
Cheers to a good and fruitful year !!!

Thanks for stopping by, stay positive... xxx


I know there are lots of single ladies like me who will like to get married some day. Some are more than happy to marry now while some are still enjoying the single life so much that they don't want to marry anytime soon. whichever category you fall into, the bottom line is that an average young person does not want to be single for the rest of his/her life. What I have also discovered is that most times we say we are ready to get married because we think we old enough, we don't really sit down to consider all other factors to know if we are truly ready to be tied to someone else for the rest of our lives. The fact that you have finished university and you are older than 25 and all your mates are getting married doesn't mean YOU are ready to be married. I came across a check list for a godly young woman that can be used to determine if she is truly ready to be married. Trust me, when I saw the check list ehn, fear catch me...there is a lot to be done. I decided to share the check list here courtesy of peacefulsinglegirl.wordpress.com , here we go:

  • Are you able to be flexible if you don’t get what you want?
  • Are you able to deeply and sincerely forgive when you are sinned against?
  • Are you able to roll with new challenges and unforeseen problems without freaking out?
  • Are you focusing on pleasing Christ more than people?
  • Do you have a good handle on what respect looks like to husbands?
  • Are you willing to not take over or try to be in control and to allow your man to make mistakes as he leads?
  • Are you tempted to be a Bridezilla? If there is ANY HINT of “bridezillaness” in you at all once you get engaged. That is NOT a good sign!!!!!!
  • Do you believe you are always right? How is your pride level? Do you embrace humility?
  • How do you respond when you are wronged?
  • Have you worked through any trust issues and healed from childhood wounds? To some degree, you can’t completely know ahead of time how marriage may bring these up even more, but have you addressed these things and are you seeking Christ and His healing and His truth in these areas?
  • Are you able to allow your man to be different from you without feeling bitter toward him?
  • What happens if your guy doesn’t give you all of the attention you want? What do you do?
  • Are you truly finding all of your contentment in Christ alone, or are you expecting your man or marriage or children or romance to make you happy? What will you do when your husband fails you?
  • Have you experienced the grace, mercy and forgiveness of God in a profoundly personal way? Do you understand that you are a wretched sinner on a heart level, and that there is nothing good in you apart from Christ?
  • Are you ready to realize that marriage is much more about Jesus and about your faith in Him than it is about you and your husband? Are you able to see that you are playing a part that God has assigned for you to bring people to Christ? That marriage is about the gospel and about drawing many to Jesus much more than it is about you?
  • Are you able to accept that all people are wretched sinners, that you will be hurt in marriage and you will be sinned against at times, that your husband will be far from perfect (and you will also be far from perfect)? Are you prepared to extend much grace?
  • Are you able to take responsibility for your own emotions and happiness?
  • Are you willing to give and give of yourself even if you don’t receive anything back?
  • Are you on board with what your guy believes is his calling in his life?
  • Are you sensitive to and concerned about what is important to your man?
  • Are you willing to trust his leadership and decisions even if you don’t agree with him and even if you don’t get your way?
  • Are you and your guy both seeking Christ much more than anything else in life?
  • Are you able to focus on the good even in difficult situations?
  • Have you both seen each other at your worst, when you are sick, exhausted, frustrated, overwhelmed, etc…?
  • What are your expectations of marriage? Once you get married, are you willing to lay down your expectations?
  • Is there anything your man could do that would make you want to divorce him? If so – you may not be ready for marriage. For a believing wife, divorce really should not be and does not have to be an option.
  • Are you able to respond gently when someone is harsh with you?
  • How do you treat waitresses and customer service people if they don’t give you good service? Does your character in those moments reflect Christ in Galatians 5:22-33?
  • What is it that you need to be happy in life? If you believe you need anything other than Christ alone – you may be dealing with idolatry. It would be good to look at your motives and priorities and to allow God to help you examine them carefully. We can easily deceive ourselves to think we are serving Christ but put other things above Him in our hearts.
  • If something tragic were to happen to your husband – he became paralyzed, got cancer, developed dementia, if you face infertility or the death of a child – are you still willing to joyfully stay and serve, respect, honor and love your husband even if he can’t “repay” you at all or you suffer in this life?
  • Are you able to approach marriage with great humility, realizing that there are many things you don’t know yet?
  • Are you prepared to 1. love God with all your heart, mind, soul and strength no matter what. 2. love others with God’s love even when they sin against you?
  • Are you ready to allow God to teach you through trials and suffering to love your husband-to-be with His love in I Corinthians 13:4-8
Truthfully, you may not have a positive answer to all these questions and that is fine, the purpose is not that you should be "perfect" (even though we are all striving towards perfection), the purpose is to keep working on the "not so good" areas so that we can enter marriage with a little less baggage and drama.
The bottom line is to check how  "ready" we are. If the husband of destiny you've been trusting God for suddenly shows up today, are you ready? Lets try and check our level of preparedness because there is this saying that "success is what happens when opportunity meets preparation".

Thanks for stopping by, stay positive...xxx


 
 e-votional with Ayo Daniels
 
Dear loved one,
A woman came out of her house and saw 3 old men with long white beards sitting in her front yard. She did not recognize them. She said, "I don't think I know you, but you must be hungry. Please come in and have something to eat." "Is your family home?" they asked. "No", she replied. "Not right now." "Then we cannot come in", they replied.

In the evening when her husband came home, she told him what had happened. "Go tell them I am home and invite them in!" The woman went out and invited the men in. "We do not go into a House together," they replied. "Why is that?" she asked. One of the old men explained: "His name is Wealth," he said pointing to one of his friends, and said pointing to another one, "He is Success, and I am Love." Then he added, "Now go in and discuss with your husband which one of us you want in your home."

The woman went in and told her husband what was said. Her husband was overjoyed. "How nice!!" he said. "Since that is the case, let us invite Wealth. Let him come and fill our home with wealth!" His wife disagreed. "My dear, why don't we invite Success?" Their daughter-in-law was listening from the other corner of the house. She jumped in with her own suggestion: "Would it not be better to invite Love? Our home will then be filled with love!" "Let us heed our daughter-in-law's advice," said the husband to his wife. "Go out and invite Love to be our guest."

The woman went out and asked the 3 old men, "Which one of you is Love? Please come in and be our guest." Love got up and started walking toward the house. The other 2 also got up and followed him. Surprised, the lady asked Wealth and Success: "I only invited Love, Why are you coming in?" The old men replied together: "If you had invited Wealth or Success, the other two of us would've stayed out, but since you invited Love, wherever He goes, we go with him.

Wherever there is Love, there is also Wealth and Success!

Here is practical way to demonstrate love in the Marketplace that brings success and wealth.
  1. Be Truthful
  2. Have integrity
  3. Be diligent
  4. Be a good steward
Question - Which one would you have chosen? 


Thanks for stopping by, stay positive...xxx
Hello everyone, am so so sorry for posting this really late..I have no excuses just that "life happens".
Its been one hectic week from last week till today, it seems like a whole lot has happened especially in this country but I hope we are keeping the faith and constantly knocking on heaven's door 'cos the issues in this country don pass "be careful"...whew*

Without much ado, lets get down to the inspirational post for this week.

 e-votional with Ayo Daniels

Dear loved one,
 

Jonathan Rogers, a handsome man in his late forties, completed high school in Trinidad. After working as a flight attendant for five years, he quit because he realized that life as a flight attendant was not what he wanted. Instead he took his customer service skills to the cruise line industry as a purser. At that time, Jonathan’s career aspirations were undefined. When he boarded the ship, his goals were to be employed for a few years and save enough money for a new life in Canada. Once in Canada, he would gain employment in a hotel and move up to become a hotel manager.

Unfortunately, those plans came to a complete stop when the government rejected his immigration application.

In the fifteen years since that time, Jonathan’s story has become truly inspirational. He realized that he could just as easily achieve his career plans at sea. Within a few years, he became chief purser by refining his computer skills, accounting competence and customer service techniques. He also participated in all professional development courses that the corporation offered him. His hard work started to pay off when he caught the attention of a superior who recognized his potential. This person served as a mentor and assisted him in focusing on a career plan.

 Jonathan spent many years as chief purser and took on special projects, where he developed his training and leadership skills, cost management expertise and staff relations skills. Soon he had a diverse portfolio of talents, and he was rewarded with the position of food and beverage manager on a prestigious ship.

At every opportunity, Jonathan expressed his career goal to be a hotel director. Now fifteen years later, Jonathan has become a hotel director.

When asked what the secret to his success is, Jonathan’s response was,

“Surround yourself with supportive people who believe in you and who can help you with a plan to make your dreams come true. It is important to ask for feedback and realize what constructive criticism is and what is not. If you don’t ask, you won’t know, you won’t learn and you won’t grow.”

Thanks for stopping by, stay positive...xxx
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