FROM MY POINT OF VIEW

I love weddings, I really really do. I doubt there's any lady that doesn't like weddings anyway. Where do I start from sef, is it the wedding dress or the cake or the hair or the wedding colours? Most of us ladies already had/have our dream wedding dresses in mind, our type of venue, the kind of traditional attire we will wear for the traditional wedding, we already had our wedding colours in mind, the bridal train e.t.c way way before we even met /meet the groom to be. Now that weddings are even a big deal around here now, one has to pay extra attention to details. Everybody wants a wedding that people will remember for a long time. Even me, as much as I complain that am usually busy during the weekends, I usually like to go to weddings because its a chance to dress up, meet old friends, see the bride's wedding gown (I usually look out for that), the cake (this one too is very important), the rice (especially the ones that smell like they've been cooked using the f...

Yaaaayyyyyyyy, its my blog's 1000 views celebration , (dancing azonto, kukere, skelewu,and limpopo altogether). I can't quite believe it that people have taken time to read all my ramblings and whining on this blog. I am grateful, really really super duper grateful because it means the whole world to me that something that I thought will never see the light of the day has been viewed 1000 times. I am also grateful because when I suddenly had this brain wave to start a blog in February, I never thought in my wildest imagination that by September of the same year I would have had people view that same blog 1000 times. I remember the first post I wrote, I remember how inadequate and unsure I was, I remember the excitement of posting the "supposed jargon", I remember how scared I was after posting it, fear of people not reading it, fear of writing rubbish, fear of grammatical errors (lol), fear that I wont have anything else to post after that, fear that the blog wil...

Hello My people. I stumbled on a lovely blog, saw a particularly lovely post and decided to re-blog it. This is especially to all ladies out there ( single and married), it is a call to valuing ourselves and remembering that we are first human beings (beautiful ones at that) that are created to be loved and cherished before we become someone's girlfriend or wife. So, sit back, enjoy, learn and share. ( Re-blogged from oneplustheone.blogspot.com ) Lucky you?! You know I have heard this phrase so much it’s becoming old and irritating. It’s used to excuse cheating partners and husbands, tolerate bad behaviour and accept nuisances. “Don’t worry, at least it’s you he chose”.. Perhaps, I don’t really understand the meaning of that sentence fully. Yes, I know that the man finds the wife as stated in the bible that “when a man FINDS a wife, he finds a good thing and obtains favour from the Lord”. Actually, it is a thing of pride and of joy to be ‘found’ but ma...

Hello everyone, its good to be back here once again.  Recently, I read some posts on Bellanaija that concerns marriage, " They want to feel wanted all the time " and  " a guy will always weigh his options ". In my opinion, as good as these articles are, especially in these days of marriages dissolving after 2 days or 2 months, its quite necessary to teach people how to make their marriage work. However, I feel these articles are making it seem like it is the job of the woman alone to make a marriage work which I think is totally unfair and untrue (we will leave this topic for another day). In the light of this, I think it is very necessary to share with you what we were taught when my Church - Lighthouse, organized a program for singles (The Marriage Orientation Program)it was quite insightful and I think sharing some tips on KNOWING WHOM TO MARRY ( thank me later..winks) can help us avoid some unnecessary wahala later on in marriage. Here we go: 1.You w...

I thought the worst that could happen to the female gender in Nigeria had already happened. After all, women were being raped everyday without anything being done about it, the excuse is that ladies dress provocatively and so they asked for it. Little girls are molested everyday with the pedophiles going scott free, the family members are usually too "ashamed" to talk about it because it is a "taboo" so everyone pretends its normal and we go about our daily hustle. The issue of domestic violence is not considered an issue at all even though some women have been beaten to death, it is considered normal afterall the husband is the head of the family so if the wife misbehaves, she should be disciplined. Some women are made to sleep with the dead bodies of their husband, drink the water that was used to bathe the dead body and even chased out of their homes ( especially if dem no born boy) because they have the "misfortune" of out-living their husbands. So...

Okay, I have come again with my ramblings and this time around, its something that has been on my mind lately - I want MORE.... It seems am going through a sort of mid - life crisis (lol) because these days, am beginning to question everything that has always made sense, am getting restless. My birthday is about 28 days away (August 1st, so get your gifts ready ..*winks*) and well, am a few years short of the BIG 30, maybe thats why I've been thinking this way lately. Now when I say "More", I don't mean money or material things(of course I want plenty of that)  what I mean is that I want my life to count more, I want to affect lives more, I want to influence my generation more, I want to be more considerate, I want to be more compassionate, I want to be more loving, more concerned about what is happening in my society, more committed to God, more committed to growth and development. I don't want to wake up one day and discover that all I have to my life is ...

  Hello blogfam, its really been a while and its taken me a while to write this post because the submission issue is particularly a touchy one especially for women. Am at that stage in life where everyone you meet is asking " when are you getting married"? and with this question comes the usual advice(whether you requested for it or not)..." you have to be submissive as a woman, don't be too independent, don't be too choosy ..."and the list of advice goes on and on. Anyways, after hearing the "submissive word a lot of times and seeing the way women react to it whenever it is mentioned , I decided to do a little research on why it is such a touchy issue. My research took me to where it was first mentioned - The Holy Bible, and this is what it says about it.... Instructions for Christian Households 21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. 22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husban...